You get into a relationship hoping that the person will be the right one. You do things that you both feel that are compatible with each other. You are surprised and at the same time happy only to realize after the courtship that lasted weeks or months is not going to last.
Picking the wrong men
Do you find yourself picking the wrong men to have a long term relationship with knowing that he has difficulty in commitment yet you ignore the signs and still get involve only to be disappointed again. Do you find yourself staying in a relationship out of loyalty or hoping that he will change because of you?
Your self image
You may have a low self image about yourself and do not feel or think that you can have a good man in your life because they are all taken or rare. You may dress well outside and the inside of you feel less than, a feeling that you do not deserve the best that life has to offer.
Difficulty in disengaging
You may separate from the person physically and still keep contact and going out with the person and that is because you have difficulty in disengaging with the relationship.
Feeling that you are to blame
Do you find yourself blaming you for each time your relationship breaks up?
Do you feel that you are the one who did not do the right thing to make it last?
Being a victim
You find yourself doing thing that is against your values, what you believe because if you do not you are afraid that the person will leave you.
Giving your power away
You may find that you are most of the time giving your power away so that you can be together with that person. You may feel the only way to get someone is to give up be who you are because if the person really knew you he would not love you.
Having expectations
If you have expectations about how the relationship should be than how it is then you leave yourself open to feeling dissatisfied that you did not get your needs met
Teaching people how to treat you
The way you act with people and situations shows others how to treat you so if you do not know your limits others may not know where to draw the line with you.
Do you deserve it
If you feel that you do not deserve to have the best relationship because your inside is not showing how you are outside then you need to change this by creating new ways of behaving with you. This act starts with putting you first and respecting your words and actions.
Learning to listen
As many women start a new relationship have a tendency to tell all right away and that may turn off a man or it does not give him time to discover who you are as a person. It is wise to learn to listen when you are in a relationship with a man give him a chance to express himself it may be the first time he does or that he is not accustom to doing.
Conclusion: If you are having problems in your relationship with your mate stop looking to fix another and take care of you.
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